30 Minutes of Self-Care Every Woman Needs

We live in an increasingly busy, hustle-and-bustle society. We are constantly spread thin between obligations, responsibilities, personal lives, careers, and simply trying to have a moment of peace and quiet to ourselves.

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Often, self-care doesn’t fit well into our fast-paced lifestyles; it can seem like a strange concept that most of us typically pine for, but aren’t quite sure how to incorporate into our lives. We feel that we simply don’t have enough time to take care of ourselves.

I find that women, especially now, are usually at the most risk for avoiding taking a moment to breathe, pause, or simply be. We are mothers, daughters, wives, sisters, teachers, doctors, caregivers, business owners, and so, so many more roles…

This can become overwhelming very quickly; especially if we don’t take time to decompress from the increasing pressures of everyday life. What we need is 30 minutes of self care a day.

So, where do we start?

I always suggest building up to the length of time. 30 minutes may seem like a few hours depending on your schedule now. I recommend beginning with 5 minutes (putting on your favorite lavender lotion and taking deep breaths), then working up to 10 (a bubble bath soak with your beloved rose soap), then 20 (laying down and listening to soothing meditation music without distractions), and finally 30 minutes. These 30 minutes are exactly what you need to relax, rest, and restore.


This is the perfect cocktail for 30 minutes of self-care*:

  1. Your favorite scented candle and cozy slippers

  2. A peaceful, gentle song playing in the background or via headphones (if you play music on your phone, try turning your phone to Airplane Mode during this time. It will help you to not become distracted)

  3. You can either sit or lay down and lose yourself to the music, or work on a hobby such as painting, drawing, scrapbooking, writing, reading, and so on. I suggest nothing digital during this time.

  4. Additionally, you can take a walk or a run, exercise, or anything else that you feel is your ideal form of taking care of yourself.

*Everyone’s ideal self-care routine will vary. This can depend on your environment, time constraints, schedule, and even personality. It may take a few tries to find what works for you; there are so many options that it’s nearly limitless. What matters is that you take time for yourself.

We require this form of self-nourishment in order to show up and be our best selves. Think about it: when you are tired, burnt out, and stressed - as you may be now - you’re not yourself. You can actually feel your inner light dimming, and you need self-care to re-light your inner fire.

I like to view self-care as the way in which we ‘charge’ ourselves; much like you would charge your phone or other notification-filled device. Self-care allows us to say it’s okay to take time for ourselves, to put our intensively busy roles aside for a moment, while respecting, as well as valuing, our mind, body, and spirit.

As the saying goes, “Put yourself at the top of your to-do list every single day, and the rest will fall into place.”